Writing
On midlife, becoming, relationships, emotional patterns, and the quieter shifts that shape us.
Something is shifting in how we talk about midlife — visibility, research, HRT guidance, cultural language. The visibility is essential. It is also not enough.
ReadAfter the disorientation, after the grief — something often starts to emerge. A sharper sense of what you actually need. A clearer read on what you've been willing to accept.
ReadMidlife often feels disorienting because identity begins shifting before clarity arrives. Something may not be wrong. Something may be changing.
ReadThere's a particular kind of experience many women have in midlife that is hard to explain — but unmistakable when you're in it.
ReadThe medical guidance around hormone therapy has been changing in ways most women haven't been told. A note on what the shift can — and can't — do.
ReadThere is a conversation happening inside of you all the time. Most of the time, you're not even aware of it. It's quiet. Automatic. Familiar.
ReadFor most of your life, you may have been taught — directly or indirectly — that anger was something to be careful with. In midlife, that suppression often stops working.
ReadThere's a quiet conversation happening inside of you all the time. Most people don't even realize it's there.
ReadThere is a particular kind of restlessness in midlife that is hard to explain to people who haven't felt it. Underneath it, very often, is grief.
ReadYou understand the pattern. You can probably name where it came from. And yet, in the moment, you find yourself doing it again. Why insight alone is not enough.
ReadSome of the most internally lonely people I work with have lives that look, from the outside, like they were built well. A note on the question that surfaces in the quiet.
ReadIf you have spent decades meeting the needs of others, there is a particular task that often surfaces in midlife — the task of remembering what you want.
ReadIf these themes are alive for you right now, you may also be interested in The Midlife Shift — a small 6-week group beginning May 15.